Most of these items will look familiar to you because they are on the Pre-quiz for this unit. The new items are meant to help you go deeper into the content.
Question 1 of 5
What does Dan Wile call the fighting-withdrawal pattern?
The most dangerous element of a marriage, to be avoided.
An irritating element that should just be accepted.
Problematic pattern that will work itself out if partners don't get too freaked out about it.
An occupational hazard of being a couple; some couples might have an intense version of it.
Question 2 of 5
Which of these are "facts of fighting?"
In an effort to talk afterward about a fight, commenting on your partner's contribution to the fight, will likely rekindle it.
One way to get your partner to listen to you is to discover the ways you agree with what your partner just said.
The complaints made in a fight are often remnants of forgotten hopes and dreams
Making a complaint may be an alternative to withdrawing
An argument is an entry point to a needed conversation.
Question 3 of 5
Which of these is the MOST accurate statement?
One partner in the marriage is likely too afraid of commitment, too independent, and use distancing too much
One partner is too dependent on the other one, wanting too much time together.
Both pursuer and distancer should try to become more like the other one.
It's best for pursuers and distancers to accept their basic nature, accept the difficulty that it brings to the marriage and just get good at talking with each other about the impact the pattern has on each other.
Question 4 of 5
Which of these are facts about the pursuer/distancer pattern?
No one is getting his/her needs met.
This problem cannot "be solved;" it can only be made better through discussion.
When someone is super busy they usually want more distance, more privacy.
Couples with an intense version of this universal pattern usually are clueless about how stuck they are.
Question 5 of 5
Couples have a pattern of dealing with difficult situations by using alternative approaches of "bypassing" and "non-bypassing." Which of these statements do you think is most true about this pattern?
Bypassers are more immature than non-bypassers.
This pattern is hard to manage.
This pattern is easy to manage because it involves trying to pursue each other... but using alternative methods. Non-accusatory discussions will "solve" this pattern.