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Question 1 of 6
What would you guess Dan Wile (our author) says is at the heart of a relationship?
sharing common interests
commitment, sex, love
companionship and doing shared interest activities together
conversations that work
Question 2 of 6
People start acting in crazy, confused, offensive and desperate ways, when
their marriage is creating mental illness in them
they are unable to say important things they need to say
when they believe there is there is a mis-balance in the commitment levels in the marriage
they have tried everything and realize that there is actual incompatibility in the marriage
Question 3 of 6
When your partner brings a problem to you it is useful to
understand that he or she doesn't want to "be in solitary confinement" with that problem
listen deeply before giving advice
only discuss solutions that will likely work based on your specific areas of expertise and experience
say nothing
Question 4 of 6
Inside every "YOU" statement (e.g. you are lazy and irresponsible) there is
a complaint about your character
a compliment about your character
evidence of wrong doing by your partner
an "I" statement that can be closely approximated
Question 5 of 6
Which of these are considered communication errors?
Saying "always" or "never"
Arguing about irrelevant details
Mind reading
Bringing up resentments from the past
Name calling
Storing up complaints
Question 6 of 6
One of these will help a recovery conversation the more than the others. Which one?
Making your case in a more intellectual, less emotional way
Grouping the complaints together in larger topics so that the larger topics can be handled
Helping your partner make his/her case "against" you.
Waiting for about 10 days before you return to the original issue that created the argument