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Trust #4 Gottman Ch 9/10/11 PRE-quiz

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Question 1 of 5

What's your guess about the correct sequence for "constructive conflict?"

A

Understand, persuade, fix

B

Listen, problem-solve, fix

C

Understand, persuade, problem solve

D

Fix the main problem, discuss its cause, create a new path

Question 2 of 5

Which of these are positive and do you think would help a couple work through their messes?

(Select all that apply)
A

Being sensitive to what sets off your partner

B

Being crystal clear about what you disagree with

C

Taking your criticisms and expressing them as wishes

D

If you can, rescuing your partner

E

Soothing yourself when you get flooded with strong emotions

F

Using paper and pencil to take notes during conflict conversations

G

Validation of your partner's emotions and experiences

Question 3 of 5

How important do you think it is to "let bygones be bygones" when it comes to recovering from an extramarital affair?

A

Very important

B

It's completely misguided advice. In fact, such advice actually harms the couple.

Question 4 of 5

With respect to connecting through intimate sex, what do you think is generally a good place to start?

A

Lingerie that is attractive; pajamas that are revealing

B

Being personally revealing

C

A nice dinner out with one, but only one, cocktail

D

Being flirty or sexy or engaging in fun stranger games

Question 5 of 5

What do you think being able to SPEAK with each other about sex, sexuality, and sexual experiences does for a couple in terms of creating a more intimate sexual life?

A

It adds an important layer of enjoyment

B

It's nice, but less important in the situation where there is a great deal of physical responsiveness between the two partners.

C

It's THE factor that creates sexual intimacy.

D

There is so much that can be AND SHOULD be communicated non-verbally that if you get the non-verbals right, then it's great to be able to talk, but it's not the main factor.

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