What areas of your partner's life are you pretty sure you're not tuned-in to enough? Generally the clues are complaints like: "I wish you understood ..." or "You never ask me about..." "Why won't you come with me to...." If you know the he/she would like you to explore more in that area, what's keeping you from going there? BTW assume that you have a GOOD reason. Don't settle for an answer like: I'm just selfish.

Are you lonely for conversation and connection with your partner? Do you think he/she really knows that? Is it possible that you're asking for that kind of connection in a way that is blaming, shaming, or obtuse? Generate a list of areas you're hoping for more extended and deeper conversations with your partner. If you'd like at some point this week, let your partner know that you're interested in some exploratory conversations in one of those areas.

Generate a list of open-ended questions for deepening conversations with your partner. Once you have generated it, double check it for "accuracy" by reading through each one and making sure no question on your list can be answered, "yes" or "not" or by other single word answers. If it can be answered by one word, cross it off the list.