Besides affairs there are 10 other ways that Gottman has identified as betrayal in a marriage. When you assess yourself, which of those areas are you doing pretty well? Which of them do you need to work on? [1. conditional commitment, 2. non-sexual affair, 3. lying, 4. forming a coalition agains your partner, 5. Absenteeism or coldness, 6. withdrawal of sexual interest, 7. disrespect, 8. unfairness, 9. selfishness, 10. breaking promises.